John Bytheway suggested asking your spouse....
What is it like being married to me?
I'm planning on working on a few things for the next two weeks
before I actually ask that question!
But think how amazing this question could be within a marriage if tenderness and respect are used during the open and loving conversation. Or even the power of suggestion in asking the question would probably makes us all treat each other a little better in our own home.
P.S. He also suggested that love notes showing appreciation to a spouse
count for like a gazillion points. I've been doing it and it does!