4.12.2010

I Want to be More Than 'Really Good Roommates'

Two things happened this weekend that got me thinking....

First, I saw Date Night! So so funny. Really laugh out loud for awhile funny. It's about finding that spark again with your spouse. Knowing you would do it all over again to be married to exactly who you are married to. I loved it. Second, it built upon what happened earlier in the afternoon for me.

I was talking to a girl that was turning 26. She said she doesn't really like birthdays. She doesn't like getting older. She wants to stay 21 forever. I had a hard time staying quiet. I wanted to jump up and tell her in all seriousness....."But the best is yet to come" but I thought it sounded too cliche so I just kind of smiled and kept my mouth shut.

Now I can't stop thinking about the BESTS I am enjoying with each new year....{in no particular order}

My two sweet kiddos who let me kiss their faces up and down until I have got my fix.

When I was 21 I didn't have my two kiddos yet.

My relationship with my Heavenly Father. Through thick and thin I know He knows me and is there for me.

When I was 21 I knew, but now with more experiences I really KNOW.

Crawling into bed every night with my more than a 'really good roommate' hubby for the past 15 years. But being more than 'really good roommates' has taken work and the rewards are so worth it. Instead of just a really good roommate, HE is my best friend, my confidant, the first person I want to call with good news and the first person I NEED when I receive bad news. His is the hand I want placed around my hand when I need to feel safe and secure. His humor is something I can't live without. He is mine forever. I love him with all my heart.

When I was 21, I was married to the wrong person and felt so alone every time I crawled into bed.

My relationships with my family members. They mean so much to me and I love the friendships that have developed over the years as adults.

When I was 21 I loved my family, but was self-consumed and thought I wanted to try life on my own.

My friends. Putting myself out there and not being afraid to meet new people. The confidence with being myself that comes with age. Oh the people I have met. The friends that will always have a special place in my heart for all different reasons.

When I was 21, I was still outgoing, but with so many extra years after 21....comes so many extra friends!

So when I see that sweet girl again, I am going to stop her and tell her "The Best is Yet to Come" and it will be totally out of the blue and she might not get it, but I will feel better. And, she will probably think.....'Yea, that was random, is she losing her mind? See what happens when you get old....you go crazy!' And, I will smile at her and wish her ALL THE BESTS!

What are some of your "bests" you are enjoying?

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9 comments:

  1. what a great post. you know, i have my days where i wish i could turn the dial back a bit, but to be perfectly honest, i didn't meet my husband until i was 29. life drastically changed for my at 30 and i wouldn't change a thing for that! confidence, comfort, understanding, temperance- all became real words in practice to me in my 30's. it only gets better!

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  2. So, so true!I wouldn't want to be 21 again for anything! I can say that there are things about that time that I will miss, mostly my mom since she is now gone, but I wouldn't go back. I didn't have my sweet Caroline then, I was with the wrong guy, and I had a rocky relationship with Him. Nope...the "bests" just keep coming!

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  3. This really put things into perspective for me!! I have these dreams of holding onto 25... I dont want to be 21 again, but I'd like to stay right here. I can't wait to see what life brings me as God has truly blessed me!

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  4. This is really sweet.

    Jennifer, Napa.

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  5. great post, what a nice way to reflect.

    I am enjoying having my mom live with us. I wish I had enjoyed her more when I lived with her growing up, but I guess it's never too late. I love seeing her take care of my kids. It makes me appreciate her to much.

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  6. good to know that i wasn't the only one to make the mistake of marrying the wrong man at 21 :) i'm now 28 and about to marry my forever husband. i look back over the last 7 years and see how much growth there has been in my personal life, spiritual life and relationships. my bests have been in the last 2 years being able to really figure out who i am and the me that i love. i have an unbelievable relationship with my God who has shown me so much grace. i haven't had the joy of kids yet...but like you said, "the best is yet to come!" i'm looking forward to so many more BESTS with my new husband!

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  7. Ah April--I have a few years on you-- but I dont want to get caught looking back like Lot's wife-- my sweet mother-in-law has taught me to enjoy every step of the journey. I am going to have to remind her of that.
    As a younger mom there were times when I cried over the decisions that my children were making. That now is all behind me. They are such sweet, kind, adults. I so enjoy being their friend and having them just call to talk. I could never imagine that they would ever be my "best" friends. And grandchildren-- oh just keep looking forward, you'll never laugh so hard or smile so much and you wont believe me until you get here!! And hang on to those cute nighties--it becomes even more sweet as the years go on--(now you probably really wont believe me... until you get here!!) Thanks April, thanks for sharing.

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  8. This is beautiful April. Things really do just get better and better. Sweeter. Richer. Fuller.

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